There’s just something about divorce that brings out the worst in everyone. We all know it can get bad, but when you throw the computer into the mix, everything levels up.
5. Recruiting Your Kids Into Helping You Play Super Parent On Facebook
If you want to be a super parent, hey… be a super parent. The world needs more of those. But when you start posting 30 selfies a week of your kid hugging you — everyone knows what you’re doing. There’s a fine line between genuine and “making your ex jealous.” You have to remember that your ex didn’t want to be away from the kids, and there’s no reason to rub their face in that. Do your parental thing, but stop and look at how much and why you’re doing it — and it might scare you.
4. Flexing Your Law Degree From Google University
When you start throwing random legal terms you don’t understand at your ex, that’s a lot like a boxer just flailing their arms around at random. So many people will go online, learn a few things, and start threatening their ex with it. The sad thing is that they generally have no idea what they’re talking about, and even sadder — they get away with it. Not only that, but the terms they use rarely even apply to their particular situation. Leave the lawyering up to the lawyers, and just do you.
3. Vaguebooking And Subtweeting
It’s been said again, again, and again — keep it off of social media. But it goes further than your everyday, ordinary, divorce rants. It gets really, really petty when you’re posting things on purpose that you know your ex absolutely will see, while acting aloof about it. No matter what it is, if there is a single thought in your head of “I hope he/she sees this”, don’t post it. Why? Because it drags everyone down and it makes already hot emotions run hotter. When you pull stuff like this, all it does is up the ante of petty behavior.
2. Password Safecracking
There is absolutely nothing for you on your ex’s computer or phone. No, stop arguing… there’s nothing there for you. At all. Leave it alone. Trying to prove adultery is not worth the time and effort you put into it, and nets you almost zero results. Just stick to the basics of “this marriage is ending and let’s be grownups about it.” You’re not going to find anything useful on their computer, and anything you do find is just going to make you angrier — thus making your divorce uglier.
1. Smear Campaigns
It’s so awful to think that people still do this, so we figured it’d be better if you just looked at this picture of the most adorable puppy EVER! How cute is he? That doesn’t change the fact that trashing your ex online is an awful thing to do, and is usually illegal. Not to mention, completely counter-productive. Anything you say online about your ex, will get back to them — not can, will. When that happens, your divorce will become an complete grease fire and degenerate into a mudslinging contest that would make a six year old shake their head in disbelief. The motto here is to keep it painless and keep it simple.
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