Most normal people don’t hope for a messy divorce. The majority of people who have to go through a divorce would like it to be as painless and quick as possible. While there’s no such thing as a perfect divorce, if you want to make yours into a complete and utter train wreck, try things like these:
5. Carry Out A Social Media Vendetta
When it comes to social media and your divorce, the rule of thumb is to stick with cat memes and pictures of your dinner. Don’t post anything about your divorce and don’t go on long rants. At the same time, don’t go looking at their social media accounts. Don’t concern yourself with what they’re saying, with whom they’re taking photos, or where they’re checking in. Don’t post photos of you with other people that we all know you’re posting just to make your ex jealous. Don’t do any of this. It accomplishes nothing and just makes the whole process more heated and drags in more drama and needless baggage that has nothing to do with what’s important.
4. Country Justice
No matter how good it might feel to carve profanity into someone’s front door, or leave their clothes on the lawn — don’t. It accomplishes nothing, and in most situations ends up being some form of a crime. Emotions run hot in a divorce, but when you go busting things up or vandalizing property, it boils over into a complete disaster. Channel the energy somewhere constructive and keep your divorce on the adult side of things.
3. Using The Kids As Pawns To Torture Your Ex
One of the worst things you can do when it comes to a divorce involving children, is carry the idea that you are “allowing” your ex to see their kids. Telling your ex they should be happy with the visitation you’re giving them, or threatening to not let them see the child(ren) at all — is a great way to make this turn ugly. Even if you think your ex is a horrible, lying, cheating jerk, you have to keep the kids out of it. If you start playing weird games, everything escalates to an unhealthy level.
2. Making All The Details Of Your Divorce Into Public Record
No matter what you might think, nobody needs to know anything about your divorce. What your ex did, with whom you caught them, what their gross habits were, and anything else that used to be personal — needs to stay personal. Tell your lawyer what they need to know, tell the courts what they ask for, and leave it at that. You’ll thank yourself in the long run when you have a low-stress divorce.
1. Keeping Your Eye On The Prize
There’s no prizes in divorce. There’s nothing to gain and everything to lose. Go into this looking for a fight and a fight is what you’re going to get. The only problem is that it’s a losing fight for everyone. If you really want to see things get all seventh grade, keep thinking there’s a prize to win. That’s when your should-have-been-simple divorce becomes a drawn-out war that drains everyone of their energy and finances.
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